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Am I being unreasonable?

So, our kitchen/living room area is gated from the rest of the house, and has outlet covers, and kitchen cabinets have baby-proofing, but the rest is not baby-proofed (and arguably not baby-proofable). There are extension cords (hard to reach, but present), chairs, rocking chairs, computer areas with lots of cables, and a gas fireplace that is never lit (which isn't much of a hazard, given it's never lit and no way for baby to easily light it). There are also two cats, one of whom avoids DS and the other of whom solicits petting from him but will get irritated and scratch or bite if he's hit or his fur yanked too many times.

Today, I was sitting at my computer while DH watched DS. I heard water in the kitchen, then heard DS babbling close behind me (in the living room) so I turned to look. DS was standing at a chair maybe five feet from me with both cats, tugging and patting with abandon, while DH was at the sink in the kitchen, washing something with his back to us both (and 20 feet from him to DS, at least, and a table in the way).

I complained that he hadn't told me I needed to watch DS and he should've, rather than leaving him unwatched in the living room. He told me he thought we over-supervise him.

He's 13 months old. We're still teaching him not to pull fur and he has, in spite of our intervening when he does treat the cats poorly, been scratched twice - once on the face. He doesn't understand yet why he shouldn't play with some things, or maybe even that he shouldn't at all.

I'm furious and frustrated. It seems to me that to leave him that unwatched in this room, where we agreed babyproofing was a lost cause so we would simply supervise him closely is not a good parenting decision at all. Over-supervised? The idea is to watch, and intervene if needed. Is that over-supervising? Am I nuts, is he nuts, or is this just one of those things?

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luckyj_baby
Feb. 22nd, 2010 04:13 am (UTC)
With cats that have scratched, I am in agreement with you. Generally, I'm more of a laidback, hands-off type- Clara can be anywhere on our babyproofed main floor (with bathroom and stair doors closed) while I'm washing dishes, and I'm fine with that. But, it is babyproofed save for the parts with the doors closed, and our cats have never shown any agression towards her.
becoming_mother
Feb. 22nd, 2010 04:38 am (UTC)
I don't really blame the cat for scratching, Drew will literally grab the poor guy by the tail and yank him around. We're working on teaching him not to do that (and 9 times out of 10, this cat doesn't scratch when he does that, but enough "incidents" in a row and the cat does eventually scratch), but he's still a baby and he's still doing it. I'd rather his learning not to do it didn't involve an upset cat and a lot of scratches.

And the main floor is SO not baby-proofed. SO not. He was about five feet from (and ignoring, yay!) the power cord for a surge protector that runs up the side of a cabinet, not to mention a couple of my husband's walking sticks which he could have bopped himself with. And pretty close to the computers, but he'd have had to go between my feet, so I'm quite sure I'd've noticed that at least.

If the main floor were babyproofed the way his room is, and if we didn't have the cats in the main floor, I would've been good with it. But the main floor is only moderately babyproof; I don't insist we stay within arms' reach, but I do think at least one of us should be able to see him and ready to move in if we need to.
ext_224921
Mar. 7th, 2010 09:00 pm (UTC)
Supervise!!!
You are absolutely right to think that your baby should be watched. My almost 1 year old gets into so much trouble in our BABYPROOFED living room! We had to go to the ER last month because he ate a tiny piece of plastic that somehow got into the area... this is such a dangerous age because they can DO so much, yet know nothing...
I have to say, I think your husband is wrong, and that's why babies end up in the ER... like mine did because I left him alone for literally 45 seconds- enough to see him gagging when I came back in the room. If I had left him longer, I wouldn't have even know what he swallowed- I tried to get it out of his mouth, saw what it was, then he wriggled away and I couldn't get at it again.
So learn from me...
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